Expectations

Expectations are simply "pre-meditated resentments". Well that sucks. That totally takes me away from depending on someone else for love, support and my happiness. If you do this then I'll be mad. If this doesn't happen I am going to have a resentment. If you do this I am going to be hurt. I don't like how those sentences sound. It sure does focus on me and how the world revolves around me.

The dictionary says expectation is the act or state of looking forward or anticipating. Well that right there tells me it is an action I have put on someone else. I must not remember the serenity prayer if I am putting expectations on people.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, people, places and things.

The courage to change the things I can, me and only me

The wisdom to know the difference. Ah Ha, that is my problem, the wisdom to know the difference.

This means I can put expectations on people all I want but I only have myself to blame when I get hurt. I forget people are on their own journey and we are at different places on those journeys. It is not someone else's place to make me happy, motivate or support me. This is an inside job between me and God.

Am I going to have expectations. Yes, after all I am human. The difference today is that I practice letting go of resentments that I create. As soon as I am hurt, angry or sad I remember if I am not the problem there is no solution. I was the one who put the expectation on them. Maybe they are not able to support or help me the way I expect them too. God always puts someone in my life to give me what a need. I do not need to force my expectations on to other people.

I must remember I will feel however I LET other people place and things affect me.....The only support I need is God. He is always my cheerleader and only wants the best for me. GO GOD